My tiny vague likely unqualified opinions as of now
I recommend reading this whole thing to the end or not at all. Some people believe popular things to be popular. Actually a lot of people do that. I am not one of those. I know what i am supposed to think according to social pressure, but here’s what I really think:
I think some people treat equality like an trendy elitist clique. Especially in one’s early 20’s when everything is about looking good and fitting in with the cool kids. Any belief is superficial when it’s based on vanity. There are invisible social performance metrics for how supportive of equality one is and it leads to shunning people that simply aren’t as far along as you are in your journey of understanding. It’s also grotesquely presumptuous and judgmental to line everyone up to your own personal ideologies based on on handful of words you heard come out of their mouth.
I can appreciate, but don’t consider myself a part of feature-centric equality movements because of tribalism/deindividualization/group conflict theory. Equal rights/opportunities/treatment for all? YES!!! The demonization of anyone who is not on board with every assertion of a particular ideology? No. A thousand times no.
Racist/sexist people are ignorant not because they are evil, but because they are a victim of systemic ignorance. They live inside of a sincere fiction that was prepared for them before they were born. They don’t know that they don’t know. The cure (I think) is the desire on everyone’s part to enlighten bigots with love. This isn’t really happening much as far as I have seen because it’s hurtful to be disliked and when someone pokes at you, you’re gonna want to poke back. This is why “reverse racism” feels like a thing to some people but…
I don’t believe in systemic racism towards whites or systemic misandry towards men. I do believe that there are women who hate men and blacks that hate whites though. I don’t think the white man has cornered the market on finding reasons to hate people. That being said, systemic inequality is a completely different ballgame and should really be treated like a different ballgame.
If you ever wonder why a white guy doesn’t seem to understand things no matter how hard he tries it’s because you need to stress and maybe introduce the word “systemic.” If you don’t, every ridiculous Fox News argument will make sense like, “Racism doesn’t exist anymore because me and my friends aren’t racists.”